Herbivore GF & Omnivore BF
I guess, there should be over 90% of boys who do not prefer to be a Vegetarian.
Or I should put it in this way, 90% of them cannot stand for a meal without eating meat!
If my friends and I are going for a Vegetarian lunch or dinner that day, some of my male friends will be really, really "depressed". Some of them would even be joking and saying "Oh, then I should eat something meaty before having dinner with you!". For guys, it seems they strongly believe that they will end up with an empty stomach with a meatless meal. (Again, not all of them, but maybe 90%!)
"Are Boys truly harder to become a Vegetarian?" Well, the combination of "Boys" and "Vegetarian life" seems to be a mismatch.
when a Vegetarian love a Omnivore
Honestly, when I first changed my diet to be a Vegetarian, I was really worried about the issue. "Will my future boyfriend not be used to eating vegetarian food for every meal, or even feeling hard to hang out with me?
不過， 重點是， 你有沒有清楚了解自己／ 對方的想法？ 為甚麼你們會是肉食者和素食者？你們懂不懂得尊重對方的選擇？常言道，戀人的相處之道，是溝通、互相了解，並尊重對方。這並非只是有關把甚麼食物放進口的問題，而是有關生活上所有的事。試想想，假如你們一個喜歡音樂，另一個喜歡畫畫，你們會因此嫌棄對方嗎？假如你們一個喜歡放假在家看書，另一個則好動得非走出去戶外活動不可，你們會因為這樣而分開嗎？ 常常聽說一些戀人， 在拍拖甚至結婚後，說大家性格不合，對方並不是自己想要的類型⋯⋯那我想問一下，在決定一起之前，其實有充分的了解自己及對方嗎？還是只是一時興起與衝動，最後分手就是因為了解呢？
I have a boyfriend, and we have been staying together for 3 years.
I think, what is crucial in a relationship, is that do you understand your thinking, or his/her thinking? What makes you become a vegetarian or a meat-eater? Do you know how to respect each other while acknowledging these differences between you two?
We have always heard that, the way we get along with each other, especially in a romantic relationship, is to communicate, to understand, and to respect each other. This is not just about what you put in your mouth, but is about everything in life. Just think about it - if one of you likes music and the other likes to paint, would you dislike the other person despite the difference? If one of you likes to stay indoor to rest in the weekend, but the other one wants to head out for outdoor activities, are you guys going to break up simply because of this issue? I have always hearing similar things from my friends. Some people, after dating or even getting married, they start to think their partner is not the type of lover that they really want... Then I have to ask, before you starting a relationship, do you have a good understanding of yourself and him/her? Or is it just a rapid feeling and impulse, and finally breaking up because of understanding each other?
我男朋友是肉食者，但對吃素沒有抗拒，也喜歡跟我食素，所以約會的初期，他也會主動建議吃素（男生初初都是這樣哄女生的吧），我們的約會也因為一邊去嘗試不同素食餐廳而感覺很有趣。接著， 我也提議可以去一些葷素搭配的餐廳。我們兩個也極喜歡吃上海菜， 他喜歡小籠包、獅子頭等； 我則喜歡冷盤， 例如香菜百頁卷、手拍青瓜、素餃子（大愛！）等，所以我們去上海菜餐館就各點各的餐點；後來我心愛的米線店推出了素湯頭，那裡也成了我倆的飯堂。
He is a meat-eater. But he will have vegetarian meal with me.
My boyfriend is a meat-eater, but he also like to eat all kind of vegetarian food. When we first start dating, he would always suggest to go vegetarian restaurants(Yes, he was, and "has been" so sweet and considerate.), and we always find it interesting trying out different new places. We would also go to some restaurants which offer meat and veggie options, like our favourite Shanghainese cuisine. He always order steamed pork dumplings and braised pork ball, and my favourite are appetizers like coriander vegetables roll, sour cucumber and vegetarian dumplings. Sometimes we also love to go to noodles bar, as they also serve vegetables broth now for noodles too!
One time, the last night during our trip to Paris, we wanted to try eating in local French restaurant on street (like a Parisian!). Some people might think it is impossible for a vegetarian to eat in normal French restaurant; but the key is just to get creative and make smart choices! This is what happened: he had his clams and burgundy beef while I had my grilled vegetables and french fries (although they were side dishes, they are still so delicious). For vegan, just to remember to remind the waiter, most of them would be happy to switch butter to olive oil instead for you. With great food & wine, we had a very romantic and unforgettable evening in Paris. And even now it has became our practice - everytime we travelling to a new city, we would find some famous vegetarian restaurants and try together.
我沒有強迫男友要跟我吃素， 我也沒有嫌棄或是討厭他吃肉。正如一開始所說， 關係裡的所有細節， 不強迫、沒嫌棄，說到底，還是要了解、要尊重，愛情才是你跟對方的連結啊。當然，我還是希望他多吃蔬果，而我也很欣賞他喜歡吃素的心，每一次他陪我去吃素，我也心存感激。
It really doesn't matter when you love each other!
I have never forced my boyfriend to be a vegetarian, or having any negative feelings when he eats meat. Just like what I have said, don't judge, open up and try to understand each other. To respect, is always the key to a relationship. Of course, I would still hope that he will eat more fruits and vegetables, and I am always grateful every time he eats vegetarian food with me.
If your partner is a dedicated meat-eater, but you want him to be healthier once in a while, why don't you consider to cook for him/her? A meatless dinner can be plenty satisfying - we love to make Thai style Tom-yum vegetables pot as main(full of different colours and nutritients); sometime when my boyfriend wants to eat some meat, he would prepare fried salmon/ chicken. To prepare a tasty and healthy meal is more easy than you think!Why not give it a go once in awhile?
As long as you love each other, and with mutual understanding and respect, a relationship between a vegetarian and a omnivore could be very interesting indeed.
Don't worry! :)
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